allyship. the toothless tiger of the diversity & inclusion movement posited to encourage black people to think that the conversations are leading to change. with every text message, email, and social media post of “i’m so sorry” and “what can i do?” i am reminded that the allies are in the shadows. they speak in […]

i’m in the archives. this is a post from a few years ago that i never published. it’s still relevant. how many of us are afraid to ask for what we want? then complain when we don’t get it? we owe it to ourselves to ask. push past the fear of “no” or of rejection […]

In May 2020 I left my corporate job. It was toxic, I was stressed, and I was furloughed. Rather than wait around for them to tell me they weren’t reinstating me, I made the decision to leave. I had a fair amount of documentation about their practices, had done some research on separation packages, met […]

i started a post a few days ago about colorism and what i perceive to be the destruction of our personhood as black people, but i was distracted by a more pressing issue that i am fighting through: justice over fear. at the age of 34 my mother was married with 5 kids. she told […]

i shared last week that i am in counseling and i truly believe that when i made the decision to seek help, to be vulnerable and transparent, that the hounds of hell were unleashed. these are the internal whispers, the mental taunts, the unseen forces that prevent me from pursuing my gift due to self-doubt. […]

so i’ve been away for awhile living, struggling, battling on all fronts. then tonight i gave in and watched brene brown, the call to courage. as she told the last story about the dread her daughter felt as she prepared to swim the 100 yard breaststroke, how she considered skipping the heat, but showed up […]

diversity fatigue. i was introduced to this concept last month while attending a leadership and diversity conference. when i heard this term i thought it meant, “it’s tiring being a person of color.” and it is. i flip on the tv or scroll through my favorite social media platform and learn of yet another black person […]

i like to think i’m an effective communicator, verbal, written, and in part, ASL. many years ago in college speech class, i learned that effective communication is 93% non-verbal (55% body language/non-verbal cues, 38% tone of voice) and 7% what is said. this was reinforced in the communication segment of the PMBOK and one of […]

there are things no one will tell you, things you just find out “on accident” about how the compound interest works, how corporate america works, why it’s important to comb your hair out completely, BEFORE washing it, after taking out your braids. but the latter is another topic for another post. i’ve decided that it […]