Whenever I travel my mind is open, wide open, to opportunity, to experiences, to wonder. I am uninhibited in a way that does not happen in my city. I see things with fresh eyes, I walk lighter, a bouncing lilt to my steps. There is little that holds me back. I rolled out of the […]
being female is exhausting. it’s not just the monthly visit from Aunt Flo, the accompanying mood swings, the oil slick on my forehead by noon (this is daily). it’s the steady drip of tomASSfoolery that dulls my sensibility to behave with couth requiring me to release the Kraken. today’s winner of the tomASSfoolery award is […]
my dad called tonight looking for my sister whose flight was due to arrive around 11am this morning. of course he knew i’d know where she was and i did: she was in her hotel dreading the 30 minute drive across the river to his house. before we ended the call he asked, are those […]
“singleness is a gift.” that is a common refrain in church circles, single’s ministries, women’s bibles studies and the like, and in many respects i agree.as a single woman i use all the counter space in the bathroom, hang my swimsuits from the showerhead, order marc fisher, vince camutos, and michael kors regularly, and lie […]
the link on my blog console reads, “write.” it’s not a suggestion, it’s a command. you are a writer so click the button and begin. spin a tale of woe, love, disappointment. write until you laugh, or cry. tell your own story before someone else does. writing is a cathartic process of release and freedom, […]
everyone has a story. some have a shitty beginning, middle, and it’s questionable how it will end. but the truth, if we were willing to share it, is that what our fellow sister is enduring we have lived and might still be living. we are incredible actors, hollywood missed out on true talent, women who […]
what do you say when someone tells you their mother is in hospice? you don’t know the person well, or at all. and this person, alone, is the caboose for your project that is in a slow motion free fall. i knew she was going to be out of the office, two weeks ago she […]
i do not have good sense. i just don’t. i find humor in randomness. in accents. in podcasts. in highly confident people. today i saw a gangly man outfitted in a black skirt, revealing knobby knees, paired with a sleeveless top, his size 13s shod in black kitten heels. his eyes were hidden behind dark […]
when i’m at water aerobics and the instructor says, cross country! and models the movement, i think, does she realize that cross country applies to the summer olympics as well as the winter? then she calls out, like you’re doing a slalom. and again i look around and think, does everyone ski? if i were […]
I’ve been meaning to talk with you, he said, as I was exiting the double doors of the conference room. My chest swelled. This senior executive wanted to talk with me? I responded, Sure thing. And then he said, Can you arrange for a few Super Shuttles to take us to dinner tonight? Shaking off […]
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