sisters, incline thine ear to hear what thus saith this SBF.  that knot in your shoulder is not because your purse is too heavy (although it probably is) that gnarled up mass of muscle is a message: make time for you. our daily lives are riddled with demands and requests from the moment we wake […]

Success is not reserved for those born with their lips wrapped around the proverbial silver spoon. Success is available to those who reach out and grab it. To those who are willing to take the chance, to be disciplined, to TRY harder daily, to press in, to never forget their why. Venturing out into a […]

Whenever I travel my mind is open, wide open, to opportunity, to experiences, to wonder. I am uninhibited in a way that does not happen in my city. I see things with fresh eyes, I walk lighter, a bouncing lilt to my steps. There is little that holds me back. I rolled out of the […]

the link  on my blog console reads, “write.” it’s not a suggestion, it’s a command.  you are a writer so click the button and begin. spin a tale of woe, love, disappointment. write until you laugh, or cry. tell your own story before someone else does. writing is a cathartic process of release and freedom, […]

what do you say when someone tells you their mother is in hospice?  you don’t know the person well, or at all. and this person, alone, is the caboose for your project that is in a slow motion free fall.  i knew she was going to be out of the office, two weeks ago she […]

i do not have good sense. i just don’t. i find humor in randomness. in accents. in podcasts. in highly confident people. today i saw a gangly man outfitted in a black skirt, revealing knobby knees, paired with a sleeveless top, his size 13s shod in black kitten heels.  his eyes were hidden behind dark […]

when i’m at water aerobics and the instructor says, cross country! and models the movement, i think, does she realize that cross country applies to the summer olympics as well as the winter? then she calls out, like you’re doing a slalom. and again i look around and think, does everyone ski? if i were […]

i fell in love with water aerobics.  first it was shallow water and then i ventured into the deep. i can’t swim to save my life (or yours so please wear a life jacket if we are ever on a boat together) but i strap on my buoyancy belt and hop into 7′ to 13′ […]

While at the Dallas Museum of Art tonight enjoying Arts & Letters Live with Chris Cleave and Jennifer Ryan, I was struck by the fact that yet again, I was the SBF in the line waiting to enter the auditorium.  I settled into an aisle seat near the front and glanced around the room. Nope, […]

In 1992 a film called Single White Female was released.  The storyline: one SFW was looking for a roommate and she got a cuckoo clock instead.  The SWF who responded to the ad started out as a relatively normal roommate but as time wore on she lost her grip on reality.  Ellen (Jennifer Jason Leigh) […]