ok. so i’ve been absent. mia. gone. i’ve been in my feelings, procrastinating, complaining. i’ve also been talking, alot. about everything i should’ve been writing. the ass kicker arrived in a white cardboard box with transparent packing tape and chinese characters. inside that box were my business cards. the cards that match this site. the […]
sisters, i have been (and am still on) a journey of self-discovery, doubt, trust, and faith. i am learning that when i bare my soul to those i trust, not the universe of women ready to dispense advice like Pez, but to those who truly have my best interests at heart, that is when the […]
i was promoted recently to director and i was overwhelmed by the outpouring of support from my fellow black colleagues. one brotha passed me and grabbed my hand, told me he was proud of me, that i am one few black directors in the company. i received email after email from brothas and sistas telling […]
when i hear people speak of slavery and refer to the enslaved as slaves, my jaws tighten and my blood boils. the AFRICANS who were stolen from their native land were FREE PEOPLE. they were never slaves, they were ENSLAVED. there is a difference, it is subtle but significant. about a year ago i watched […]
we have euphemisms for everything: he’s on that stuff, where, stuff is drugs, narcotics. by contrast, “he got that stuff” means he has AIDS or is HIV positive. he’s “different” or “like that” or “funny.” back then such phrases meant gay, today we don’t even speak the word and if we do, it’s said in […]
this has been a trying week. i’ve received calls and texts about violence in my hometown, about friends in hospital battling all manner of illness, and family members awaiting a prognosis. life was happening whilst i was luxuriating at a resort, drifting from one spa treatment to another, from the whirlpool to the sauna. what […]
sisters, incline thine ear to hear what thus saith this SBF. that knot in your shoulder is not because your purse is too heavy (although it probably is) that gnarled up mass of muscle is a message: make time for you. our daily lives are riddled with demands and requests from the moment we wake […]
in corporate life when there is a debacle of epic proportions (think: Volkswagen) and senior leadership enters the scene, the guilty party blends into the crowd and joins in the scapegoat search. most often the scapegoat does not resemble those at fault giving the story plausibility. blame is shifted, history is revised, and the unsuspecting […]
the other day i was talking with a friend about expectations, how we believe that a job well done will be compensated based on performance. we bust our asses meeting deliverables, wiggling through knotholes, fighting fires our leadership has set due to poor planning, and when the time comes for promotion or bonus, we are […]
Success is not reserved for those born with their lips wrapped around the proverbial silver spoon. Success is available to those who reach out and grab it. To those who are willing to take the chance, to be disciplined, to TRY harder daily, to press in, to never forget their why. Venturing out into a […]
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