a few weeks ago i was nearly the only SBF at an event featuring maria shriver. i got a two-fer ticket and convinced a girlfriend of mine to be my plus 1. i arrived before she did and sat up close to the front, on the end. patrons arrived and my friend was lost in […]

two weeks ago, i bought a 68” leaning mirror. it’s framed in textured gold wood and is the perfect size and design for my soon-to-be dressing room.  when i was ready to checkout i asked for assistance and the brotha, slight build, maybe 5’4”, asked me if i had a truck. i shook my head, […]

work has and been wrought with changes. new leadership, layoffs that impacted the team, ill conceived decisions made by senior leadership that require attention and a short runway for delivery. for reasons only He knows, i am at the center of these changes. it was my leader who left the team and now i have […]

last year before christmas my pastor said, let jesus be the center of your happiness. while he was talking i was creating a bubble chart about things that make me happy, sad, and what made me happy when i was in my 20s. the lord was no where in the list. friends, travel, dating, romance, […]

I listened to a podcast last tonight about a French stand up comic who wanted to prove his standing by testing his mettle in the United States. a seasoned American comic quipped, “to be good you’re gonna have to get comfortable with failing. hard. often.” I heard that and thought, there’s a word for me. […]

there’s a rage that smolders every evening and is a roaring flame by morning as i prepare to drive an hour or more to work and watch as a pass is afforded to white males allowed to switch positions after 7 months, not subject to the 12 month rule; to white females promoted three times […]

rage. it’s pent up in all of us. tempers flaring daily about traffic, political injustices as #45 seeks to make america great again with his travel ban and undercover tax plan, while his boy roy moore tells us that families were united during slavery. the question is, what do i do with this rage? how […]

i finally bought an echo dot. i connected it and said, alexa, play pandora. she said, what would you like to hear? i said, jazz. she said, shall i add it to your station. i said, yes. she said, it’s been added.  and i said, thank you.  now, y’all know the world is off axis […]