my eldest sister used to be ambitious, career-oriented, and social. she graduated from high school almost a year early and moved out at 22. no college degree needed, she rose up in her company and was a supervisor. she wanted to be radio dj and she launched her own r&b show. she had a great sense […]
tough message from the pulpit today. pastor challenged us to build our houses (families) on the rock (Jesus Christ) so that when the storms roll in, our houses will stand. while there are many kinds of storms one thing is true: storms are inevitable. just like time and chance, they happen to us all. matthew […]
i was invited to hear a pastor’s wife deliver a message especially for single women. i missed out (dropped my gate opener in the bushes after i left the apartment gym; spent 15 minutes looking for it) but i can’t say that i’m crushed. here’s why. it’s not that i don’t think i would have […]
within each person is the desire to achieve the best outcomes in life and reach our greatest potential. we want to avoid pain and disappointment at any cost. this desire is so strong it leads us to believe that our actions are pure as the driven snow. desire is merely a euphemism for selfishness. selfishness […]
i’ve been trying to plan an european vacation with one of my best girlfriends. we talked about this LAST YEAR and were going to visit another friend in Spain. but things didn’t pan out so we postponed. then this year we said, we’re going to rome! but there was one delay after another. finally i […]
let me get right to the point. brothas: if she’s good enough to sleep with, have a baby with, and live with, why is she not good enough to marry? sistas: why do we willingly alter the course of our lives forcing ourselves to be stuck with some clown who isn’t worthy to breathe your […]
how many men do you know that have kids, only because they let it slip out or because you happened to see them out with their children? i find that men can, and often do, hide that they are single parents but for women, there is no place to hide. you know right away when […]
wednesday. i celebrated another birthday. i spent it in san francisco. nothing spectacular, a massage at the ICH i-spa and an italian dinner. leading up to my special day i prayed that i wouldn’t hear from A.C.P. and when the clock struck 12:01am thursday morning, i grinned and thought, God is truly faithful, even in […]
so it really kills me that this apartment complex sticks a lease renewal letter in my door in mid-july telling me i have until july 31 to renew at this “great rate.” i contact them last week telling them i have an effing job so i cannot drop in during the week to sign the […]
i think i have a thing for musicians. my first boyfriend was a bass player. he had mad talent. whenever i hear the bass line in a song i see him on stage playing with his band and the thought makes me smile. i can see him clear as day standing in “the pit” at […]
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